What is a “first look”?
Growing up, we are told that it’s bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the wedding, right? I understand the sentiment behind seeing each other for the first time as the bride walks down the aisle. But I’d love to suggest a “first look” for your wedding day. In case you’ve never heard this term before, this is where the bride and groom set aside some time to see each other before the wedding ceremony. If you’re thinking, why in the heck would I want to do that?, I’ll give you my 5 reasons to have a first look at your wedding.
5 Reasons to have a first look
- Gives you a chance to see each other for the first time that day alone in an intimate setting rather than in front of family & friends. This can be just as special (or even more special, I think) as seeing each other as the bride walks down the aisle. It’s just the two of you (and your photographer to document the moment). You can be yourselves and feel the emotion of the day.
- Can help calm nerves. A lot of times seeing our fiancé on a stressful, emotional day can help to center us and calm our nerves. This person knows you well and can help to settle your emotions.
- Use this opportunity to read each other a special note or letter, or give each other a gift to start the day. How special would it be to have a letter prepared that is only between the two of you? Or maybe you have a gift for them and you want to see them open it and share that experience. A first look gives you the opportunity to share that letter, note or gift when it’s just the two of you around.
- From a practical standpoint, having a first look allows you to have more time for photos before the ceremony. A lot of time can get eaten up between wedding party photos and family photos. If you get those done before the ceremony, you can go straight to your reception and party with your people. Your photographer will likely still want to do photos with just the two of you after the ceremony. So having all those others out of the way really helps to speed things along. Check out this post here where I walk through different timeline options – both with a first look and without.
- You will likely get more photos of you as a couple by having a “first look”. By the time the excitement of the ceremony is over, often times people want to let loose and go have fun at the reception. If your photographer has been able to take photos of you before the ceremony, there’s less photos you to take after the ceremony, freeing you up to enjoy your day.
What do you think?
Of course, this is your big day and the decision is yours, so do what makes you happy. Hopefully this list of 5 reasons to have a first look gives you some good points to think about when considering whether or not to do a first look. 🙂
I found this article that talks about the pros and cons of having a first look at your wedding. It offers the perspective of brides and photographers, and there’s some great opinions on both sides. 🙂
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